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Wedding Planning 101
So a few of you have emailed me asking for my advice on weddings. I don’t by any means consider myself an expert on the subject but I am more than happy to share what I know.You can call this my first installment. If you find this useful and interesting I will be more than happy to share more!
We knew right away that we wanted a fun, casual, and warm wedding. Everything flowed out of that.
As far as planning and organization here is what I recommend:
Get a wedding planner. I was a full time student and worked when we were planning ours and there was no way I had enough time to devote to all the phone calls and planning involved. Our planner was an immense help. We did the picking she did the work and it worked out beautifully.
Set a budget!! I never fail to be amazed at how many people don’t do this. The thing is even with a budget it’s easy to get a little crazy but you need something to be able to check back with to make sure you are staying on track.
Set priorities. If you don’t know what they are you are bound to overspend where you didn’t actually want to and have nothing left for what you did want. For me it was: dress, food, flowers, venue, and invitations.
Pick a color scheme and stick to it. With a wedding you have to become ruthless and decisive, even if that’s not in your nature. Otherwise you will give yourself a heart attack changing your mind every minute. Those type of brides are impossible to work with and I feel bad for them because they just seem miserable. When I got my dress I told myself “This is the most beautiful dress in the world and there will never be another one to match it.” This needs to become your mantra with everything.
DON’T OBSESS OVER WEDDING MAGS!! This is a huge mistake that a lot of brides make. I bought a few for inspiration but I did not drive myself crazy with them. Your wedding DOES NOT NEED TO BE PERFECT it just needs to make you happy.
Instead of spending all your money on magazines invest in books and wedding planners that offer useful advice instead of 700 styles of cake toppers.
As far as your sanity during this time goes here are some tips:
Always remember this is your day. You and your groom are the ones that will live with this day forever. Not your mum, dad, grandmother, aunt, sibling, or cousin. Remember that.
Have at least one day a week where all wedding talk is off limits. Turn off the cell phones, laptops, and put away the books and magazines.
Do not compare your wedding to anyone else’s. It’s yours and it’s special. That is all.
If crying makes you feel better do it.
Do not attempt to go on hunger strikes, have unrealistic expectations about your weight, or try to become Kate Moss. Kate Moss will have her own wedding. This one is yours. Look like yourself and love yourself just the way you are.
Repeat to yourself every day “This day is about us and our love not stuff.” So many people get caught up in the flowers, shoes, tulle, and cakes that they forget why they are doing this in the first place.
And last but not least, on the day of LET IT GO. It’s done. The flowers aren’t perfect? So what? Just look at the way your groom is looking at you. The weather isn’t quite right? Who cares? Just think about the amazing honeymoon you’re about to go on!
Would you like to hear more?

Wedding Planning 101

So a few of you have emailed me asking for my advice on weddings. I don’t by any means consider myself an expert on the subject but I am more than happy to share what I know.You can call this my first installment. If you find this useful and interesting I will be more than happy to share more!

We knew right away that we wanted a fun, casual, and warm wedding. Everything flowed out of that.

As far as planning and organization here is what I recommend:

Get a wedding planner. I was a full time student and worked when we were planning ours and there was no way I had enough time to devote to all the phone calls and planning involved. Our planner was an immense help. We did the picking she did the work and it worked out beautifully.

Set a budget!! I never fail to be amazed at how many people don’t do this. The thing is even with a budget it’s easy to get a little crazy but you need something to be able to check back with to make sure you are staying on track.

Set priorities. If you don’t know what they are you are bound to overspend where you didn’t actually want to and have nothing left for what you did want. For me it was: dress, food, flowers, venue, and invitations.

Pick a color scheme and stick to it. With a wedding you have to become ruthless and decisive, even if that’s not in your nature. Otherwise you will give yourself a heart attack changing your mind every minute. Those type of brides are impossible to work with and I feel bad for them because they just seem miserable. When I got my dress I told myself “This is the most beautiful dress in the world and there will never be another one to match it.” This needs to become your mantra with everything.

DON’T OBSESS OVER WEDDING MAGS!! This is a huge mistake that a lot of brides make. I bought a few for inspiration but I did not drive myself crazy with them. Your wedding DOES NOT NEED TO BE PERFECT it just needs to make you happy.

Instead of spending all your money on magazines invest in books and wedding planners that offer useful advice instead of 700 styles of cake toppers.

As far as your sanity during this time goes here are some tips:

Always remember this is your day. You and your groom are the ones that will live with this day forever. Not your mum, dad, grandmother, aunt, sibling, or cousin. Remember that.

Have at least one day a week where all wedding talk is off limits. Turn off the cell phones, laptops, and put away the books and magazines.

Do not compare your wedding to anyone else’s. It’s yours and it’s special. That is all.

If crying makes you feel better do it.

Do not attempt to go on hunger strikes, have unrealistic expectations about your weight, or try to become Kate Moss. Kate Moss will have her own wedding. This one is yours. Look like yourself and love yourself just the way you are.

Repeat to yourself every day “This day is about us and our love not stuff.” So many people get caught up in the flowers, shoes, tulle, and cakes that they forget why they are doing this in the first place.

And last but not least, on the day of LET IT GO. It’s done. The flowers aren’t perfect? So what? Just look at the way your groom is looking at you. The weather isn’t quite right? Who cares? Just think about the amazing honeymoon you’re about to go on!

Would you like to hear more?